Make a List
For one week, make a note each day of the things you find yourself attacking and add them to the lists you have already made.
Examine Your Perceptions and Beliefs
Be Kind to Yourself!
Do NOT attack yourself for attacking others. Attack is a powerful concept learned at an early age and reinforced throughout our lives; however, if we want genuine, lasting peace and joy in our lives, identifying our attack thoughts, words, and actions is the place to begin until we are able to replace those thoughts with a new set of perceptions and beliefs.
You may want to review the exercises you did for STEP 2 after doing the exercises above. Reviewing those activities helps give balance to your week and helps remind you of the love you have in your life and in your heart.
However, to get to the goal of lasting peace and joy, it is attack thoughts that must ultimately be eliminate, and to do that, they must first be identified and examined.
In STEP 4 we will examine the choices we get to make; using the formula P+B=E=A, so we can begin to brew a different kind of tea for our tea cup. Go there when you are ready to concentrate on the content of STEP 4.
Nan-in, a Japanese master during the Meiji era (1868-1912), received a university professor who came to inquire about Zen.
Nan-in served tea. He poured his visitor's cup full, and then kept on pouring.
The professor watched the overflow until he no longer could restrain himself. "It is overfull. No more will go in!"
"Like this cup," Nan-in said, "you are full of your own opinions and speculations. How can I show you Zen unless you first empty your cup?"
Reps, Paul. Zen Flesh, Zen Bones: A Collection Of Zen And Pre-Zen Writings (Kindle Locations 302-307). Pickle Partners Publishing. Kindle Edition.
A Cup of Tea: A Zen Parable
Emptying Your Cup
It is important to take note, after reading the Zen parable above, that in the parable A Cup of Tea, Nan-in did not suggest the cup be thrown away; he merely said to emptyit. The message of the parable is not that we are to become mindless; the message is that we are to become open-minded.
If the way in which we have been thinking about life and ourselves has not brought us the love and peace and joy to which we are entitled, then it is time to pour out those thoughts, try out some new thoughts, and see where they take us.
Remember, if the taste of the "new tea" does not provide the satisfaction we are looking for, we can always go back to the "tea" we were drinking before.
How to decide what to empty from our cup:
Empty Your Cup
CALL TO ACTION
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